[阅读笔记]Get your voice heard in meetings
这是昨晚跟胖鹿讨论的一个话题：how to make your voice heard in business meetings?
Follow these five steps to get your voice heard during your next meeting.
（1）Master the pre-meeting
Before the meeting, find something on agenda that you are passionate about and prepare a statement that expresses a strong opinion or idea that goes beyond agreeing with the status quo.
（2）Use power language
...there is a big difference between saying “I want this project to be successful so here’s what we should do” versus “Let’s take another look at this.”
Adams suggests several phrases to help you to clearly state your opinion:
- “I strongly suggest” instead of “How about”
- “This is absolutely right” instead of “I tend to agree”
- “My strong advice is” instead of “I think maybe”
- “Here’s my plan” instead of “Maybe we can”
- “I recommend” instead of “What if”
（3）Prepare to speak
（4）Become an organizational scientist
If you assess the room from an organizational scientist’s point of view, you will be more emotionally neutral if the group doesn’t embrace your idea...(5)Make an impact
Consider sharing your idea with a trusted colleague or two before the meeting and ask them if you should share your idea with the larger group...
*下面一篇文章作者授权转载，故末尾保留了原作者版权信息。10 Ways to Increase Visibility in Meetings， by Joel Garfinkle
The methods that helped my client become better self-expressed can help boost your visibility, as well. Here are the top ten ways to express yourself more fully in meetings:
- Stop censoring yourself. Once you stop censoring yourself, you’ll automatically speak out more often. It’s important to share your thoughts and ideas without over-editing them or limiting your expression. Don’t lose valuable opportunities to share your views and be seen as the influential person you are.
- Choose a topic ahead of time. Prior to every meeting, choose one topic or agenda item that you will address, even if your perspective is contrary to the prevailing opinion, potentially confrontational, or even a moot point. Select a topic that is important to you and prepare in advance so that you will be ready to add to the discussion.
- Say the first thing that comes into your head. In addition to preparing to discuss a specific topic, commit to expressing one idea that pops into your mind. Practice doing this at least once per meeting so that speaking without censoring yourself becomes a habit. Your newfound ability to jump into a conversation without preparation will soon override any lingering fears.
- Ask questions. One of the easiest ways to speak up in a meeting is to ask questions. Try asking: “How did you come up with that?” or “What is the basis of the remark you made?” or “Where is that coming from?” Leverage your knowledge and expertise to probe deeper into what others are saying. You will feel more engaged and become an active participant, which will help facilitate a more powerful meeting and provide opportunities for others to truly see you.
- Decide how often you want to speak in a meeting. Before each meeting, decide how many times you want to speak so you will have a target that motivates you to participate. You can, for example, choose to speak three times and let the first be a comment you prepare in advance. The second could be a question you ask. And the third time you speak might be a thought that comes to mind at any point during the meeting.
- Believe in your ideas and have confidence in sharing them. Your ideas are no less valid that those of the other people in a meeting so don’t allow doubt to get in the way. You do not need to adjust your viewpoint to suit the needs of others. When you believe deeply, your confidence will expand, and you will find it easier to share your thoughts and ideas.
- Don’t give your power away. It’s common in meetings to defer to a boss, others higher up in the organization, or someone that intimidates you. In the process, however, you may be giving away your power. Learn to leverage these great opportunities. Use them to shine by sharing WHO you are and revealing yourself as an impact player in the organization. Most senior people will take notice someone stands firm in their own strength. Champion yourself by acknowledging that what you bring to the table is as valid as any other contribution.
- My thoughts are worth sharing. When someone else speaks up at a meeting and your view is contrary, don’t automatically think that you are wrong and she is right. When you give someone else’s ideas greater importance than your own, it may be because you don’t believe that your thoughts are worthy of sharing. That’s simply not true. Your experiences, thoughts, and opinions are not only valid and worthwhile, but may prove to be exactly what other people need to hear.
- Speak without hesitation. Speak when you want to speak and not just when you have something important to say. Imagine being the most verbose person in the meeting. Yes, that might be a bit radical, but push the limits of your comfort zone. Wouldn’t it be powerful not to censor yourself at all? Give yourself the gift of total freedom of expression and you will soon be comfortable sharing yourself without hesitation.
- Be the first to speak up. Look for opportunities in each meeting to be the first to express your viewpoint. When you speak first, you have less time to generate self-doubt by comparing what others say to your own opinion. When you delay speaking up, you may become more withdrawn and find it harder to break into the discussion. So lead the discussion instead of following it and reap the benefits of being fully engaged in every meeting.
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